Selfish or Selfless?

It has come to my attention that most all fertiles who have never had any real difficultly getting pg completely regard the entire ordeal from the point hpt turns + to the point of death as one of lifes biggest achievements. I also think mostly, "normal" people think giving life is the most selfless thing one can do. I beg to differ. I know that throughout the years of ttc, followed by just not giving a shit weather or not it happened followed by most recently a pregnancy ending in m/c, that at least part of the reason I've wanted it so badly in the past is for very selfish reasons. I have a feeling that I'm not the only one. Afterall, no one wants to be alone, we all crave the biological connection with a child of our own. Most of the women I know who have suffered loss and long term ttc would give their right arm and left leg literally to be able to experience the joys of motherhood. Maybe its not completely selfish, but its definately not selfless either. I have thought of conducting a bit of an experiment and ask people at random weather they think "giving their life up to raise their child is in anyway selfish"....People like my SIL who had no trouble with conception. But I'm not as tough as I used to be, LOL. Still it would be interesting to know if any of those people realize that thier choice, and the reasoning behind their choice of having children(their "greatest achievement in life") is/was somewhat selfish. Of course if it is completely selfless(or so they claim) then that just really shows how arrogent they are, that they think so much of themselves, of their genes to pass those things on to offspring, like they are giving back to the world. Now I'm just rambling, but still something interesting to think about.

On a lighter note, I've got 2 rose bushes and a bunch of seeds and bulbs to plant but we're supposed to be getting some snow tomorrow sometime so I've decided I'd better hold off and see if we do. It would be good on the one hand(the snow) because flies, japenese flying beatles, even snakes and ticks are already out here so a final freeze would kill all that junk which would make for a happier summer. However, the apple trees are already blooming so our apple crop would be crap for this year if a good freeze got the trees. Which means no homemade apple butter and jelly this year(my usual xmas gift to friends and fam).

I'd better run, I'm watching the most amazing episode of dog whisperer!